Father

ABUL QUASHEM(my father/our father)

DOB: September 3rd 1926.(Calculated from circumstantial evidences).
Education :He did not get opportunity to go to school. As his eldest son I spent many days with his business activities in high school level. He knew taka, Ana, sher,mon and arythmatic calculation well. He could write and read Bengali very nice. We have in collection some of his puthies, stories (with his hand writing) that flashes his knowledge & power in Bengali language .Question is how could he achieved this. As my uncle said in those days every family has tradition to have lodging master. This student lodging master was his source of knowledge .He did not know English neither Arabic. His religious feeling and motivation was non compromising.

Livelyhood: lost his father at very boyhood. he has to take responsibility of the family though he was the second son. Basically a cultivator and it was his full time occupation .

At his youth he started a stationary/grossary shop leaving cultivation. The shop was taken over by his elder brother .He took as an opportunity to settle his brother to business. He shifted to running business of commodities selling in week end markets around. That is how he fought with fate and future. I saw him involved in three /four varieties of business of small capital. Needless to say he was honest ,needless to say he has determination and perceived aim of life. While he opened bank account ,his instruction was to deposit without interest, that my uncle said where people/we look bank for better interest he opted for nil interest .I saw him maintaining a busy schedule .He used to come back home at 11 pm. In high school life many night i came with him accompanied by our staffs. It was routine ,he used to take bath at 8 am and after praying and having breakfast left for ataikula shop. That was when he started a tailor shop. Prior to that he had to go for some farming, house hold work then left for remote week end of market to sale less price shirt, gangy, pants .That was not the era of brands, best cloth would come from tailoring. We had rice mill, tailor shop, and cloth shops, we have small shops in weekend market(hat) ,we had small stock business everything was small scale. We (siblings) were our teacher ,life pattern of our father-mother was our guidelines of future. As eldest son i had talk of inner interest, sharing of odds and even in family .He never advised me for short cut benefit .He was very rigid in his own principles.

In two decision he had to be soft. He insisted me to go Rajshahi for higher studies after HSC ,I went Dhaka . I got admitted in Pharmacy in Dhaka University but have to go to Dhaka Medical as he wished. He knew he could not comment on my class result study material but was keen to supply material well ahead of enquiry. He was against lodgingship in college life presumably because of failure to achieve the cherised goal by his most favorite younger brother.
Achievement :He had the ego for achievement that is how he initiated the mosque with his own physical labour .Used to give ajan and after that knocked the neighbors at doors inspiring them to attend the fazar prayer.
He initiated Nolkhala primary school giving his land presuming his second son will be provided. This school is well settled now and the best school of our upzila.
He had accidental death, nobody claimed anything he borrowed ,he had no bank debt inspite of the fact that he has a big family of eleven children, inspite of the fact that during 74,75 the hardest days of our economy we three were studying residing hall, hostel (Rajshahi college, BUET, Dhaka medical college. After his demisal we could acknowledge that he bought double the land he owned from his parent. My mother owned (all bought by him) more than those we had our brothers and sisters combined .May be he thought my mother (his wife )could face trouble in a family of 7 son and seven daughter in laws.
Glimpses to acknowledge:
1.While in college I requested him to pay admission fee for one of my fellow friend. I told him you might have eight instead of seven children .He gave that money. After many years I could learn that he borrowed that money and he had trouble to repay it.
2.Just a few days ago one of my school teacher said'you may not know it was your father to whom I am indebted for my BA degree'--he told he was in short of 152 taka and my father attended his crisis. Reality is he was tremendously education inspiring ,may be because he was deprived of this.
3.He had business friends in islampur (Dhaka) market .One of them offer him to buy a land after' 71 in Gulshan area. He could afford but did not try, reason is -as he expressed 'if i did it my children would be business minded leaving education and academies.'
4.:One night during my in service training period I came home unnoticed at 11PM-a rainy night. After dinner I was in bed trying to close eyes. My father was calling to see patient who came from neighbouring village.There was obvious hesitation from my side. Any way I attended them. Next morning while opened eyes (woke up) I saw my father besides. He told "seems you became annoyed last night, whole month i seat idle home nobody even a fly bother to pip into and these people came at 11pm in a rainy night. They came because they are in need from you. My expectation is you would not hesitate to serve my people ,let none leave without service from you. "In fact that inaugurated a zeal in me to work for people .
Demisal: Worst experience of my life was his accidental death. We were not prepared for it. He did everything but deprived us to serve him, just we were getting established. We are eleven none could give a drop of water to his mouth when he breathed his last..I/we had money we could not spend a single paisa for him. This incompleteness chasing us throughout !

5.Nov �93 I was leaving to start my dhaka medical college study he told me at breakfast �son try to help people but don�t do any harm so long you have sense� -বাবা তুমিত আল্লাহার মারজি বড়ো
হবে কিন্তু মনে রেখ �উপকার করতে না পারলেও সজ্ঞানে কারো আপকার করোনা�

FOUNDER CHAIRMAN

PROF.(DR.) KHWAJA NAZIM UDDIN
MBBS(Dhaka), FCPS(M), FRCP(Glasgow), FACP(USA)
Specialist Internal Medicine & Diabetologist
Professor of Medicine

PRINCIPLES OF LIFE

আজকের কাজ এখনই। (NOT TO KEEP ANYTHING UNFINISHED TOMORROW)
একা নয় সবাইকে নিয়ে বড় হতে হবে।(NOT ALONE /LET EVERYONE GROW)PROF.(DR) KHWAJA NAZIM UDDIN

Mother

মা/My mother:ROKEYA BEGUM

DOB:1938 May 14(Calculated from circumstantial evidences).
Education:She can't read nor write.Tried to teach how to sign .Succeeded partially by her grand daughter finally abandoned.Passport is endorsed with finguretip .This is a shame for we all.We are total 15 of her children (11 surviving) feel ashamed.
Livelihood :মার কথা মনে হতেই চোখের সামনে ভেসে উঠে একটি মুখ।নিরাহংকার শত সমস্যারও মধ্যে সততা আর কাজই যার জীবনের উপলব্ধি।১১ সন্তানের টানাপোড়ানোর সংসারের চালিকাশক্তি মা আমার কি কষ্টই না করেছেন!রাত সাড়ে এগারটায় শোয়ার পর ভোর সাড়ে চারটায় ধান সিদ্ধ,দিন ভর ধান শুকানো,মাড়ানো ধান উড়িয়ে আবর্জনা পরিষ্কার ।চুলা জ্বলানো ,রান্না -বান্না খাওয়ান -দাওয়ান কাপড় কাঁচা একই সাথে চলতো।retrospective ভাবলে বুক আটকিয়ে আসে,চোখ ঝাপসা হয়ে উঠে,কেমনে পারত!how?

She is really a person behind the scene.I can't remember a moment seeing hers gossiping/quarreling with neighbours.She had to work ,no time to demand,no time to burgain .Simplest of simple lives!She was always more than 50% of our life.She took 100% of the responsibility after my father's death.She was never with mind/expression of vanity.
Social mother:We introduced a scholarship in our high school with her money.This money she herited from her parents.Due to unavoidable circumstance I was on the verge of closing construction of our village hospital .It was she who insisted to continue.
She observed post death activities of my elder aunt and my youngest uncle on her own initiatives .I gave a concrete wall complete barricade of my village house but mother kept a door of communication.My neighbour uncles/aunt maintained social relations.She visit them in their ailments and calamities ,they come to her.
Exuberant Affection :Once I saw a mentally handicapped boy at home.She told my children are living out of house,never know how are they there!That boy stayed till his death and my mother observed al his post death activities.She used to feed beggars whenever got chance,telling same thing 'never know how my children are eating out of my sight.'
Emotional and spiritual :My mother is highly emotional but nonexpressive.Once I asked her about plan of burial after death.She wished to be at her own village with her parents and brothers.I wondered and demanded reconciliation arguing "you spend long time with my father at this home ,we are your children here how can you say this" .She kept silent.I told her mom we/I also want to stay with my parents here!
She performed pilgrimage with my father,seems still desire to go once again,needless to say never missed daily worships.

Her grievenc:সবমায়ের মত আমার কসমোপলিটন মার সুখ ও তার Caring সন্তানেরা .বাড়ীর লোক,পাড়া-প্রতিবেশীর ভরসাস্থল এই মানুষটিকে সুখ-স্বাচ্ছন্দের কথা বলতে গেলেই বাকরুদ্ধ হয়ে পড়েন।চোখ ঝাপসা হতে দেখি ।বুঝতে পারি তার বুকের ব্যাথার কারন।সুখ তার হারিয়ে যাওয়ার কারন আমার বাবা !বাবা গত হয়েছেন ১৯৯৪ সালে।
মা/My mother: ROKEYA BEGUM